Read on if you dare.. to remember that life really is too short to live it alone, or without forgiveness.. Most importantly - don't forget that we all need someone to laugh our butts off with! So feel free to stop by, laugh at some off-the-wall humor that is my day to day experience and please keep your comments positive.. Lifeis2short4me anyway to experience any more negative than I have to. :)
Saturday, February 9, 2013
Asking for help-why is it so difficult?
Maybe because we have been told so many times that there isn't anything wrong and get labeled "drama queens" for being unfortunate enough to have had struggles in our lives.
Why is a woman considered weak if she quietly says, "Hey there-I am having just a really crappy time right now. I might cry a little, I will probably overreact to anything you say-even if you don't see how it can be misconstrued as being a negative comment, so could you please be understanding?"?
Why do some women look at the person, who is opening up to us and being honest, and say, "What a drama queen! Get over it already!"?
Is that how you would respond to your friend, fellow student, or coworker?
What if the one that is hurting doesn't want to share their pain? Does that make their pain less significant?
Every person in this world has their own road to travel, hundreds-maybe even millions of bricks will be passed by each soul- if God willing. No two people will take the exact same course. Each will take turns on their own, developing as they grow, and then, hopefully, building a bridge to connect and share their road with others by creating their own family.
While on the road each travels in our life, we have struggles-broken hearts, loss, chaos, illness. No other person knows our struggles as we do. Even if they have been shared, they haven't been lived by any other human being in the exact same way.
Think of this if you come across a coworker/classmate that seems unusually quiet, or if you see a tear fall down their cheek. Don't always ask, "What's wrong?" because they may not want to share, or talking more about it could be difficult for them.
Give them a tissue and say, "Anything that I can do?". Just that simple act will show them that you are there if they need someone. That, really, is all they need.
But hey-I'm not a psychologist, no PhD for this girl. I'm just a girl that has lived this crazy life experience full of ups and downs, broken hearts, and also more joy than anyone has ever deserved.