Thursday, September 4, 2014

Ramblings of a Desperate Human

We're human beings. 

When we wake up, most of us are barely conscious of the air we take in and breath out. We are putting our clothes on, getting ready to face the world and whatever challenges await us. We grab the coffee/latte/whatever-will-get-us-through-this at our local "Java Jo", and stare aimlessly at our devices while ordering rather than-GASP!-socializing with the other humans around us.

Fast forward approximately 8 hours, and we're pulling in the driveway, grabbing our mail, and what are we doing?  Staring at our devices.. In fact, that commute home gave our minds time to wander, think, imagine, and all the while giving us a serious case of "Screen Withdrawal"..

What would happen though,  if for one day, there were no cell phones or tablets for us to share our (miss)adventures?

Did you notice the "miss" in misadventures?  That's because I profoundly believe that so many of our experiences are missed or lacking all because so much attention is paid to that screen..

How many wonderful ideas or creative inspirations have been missed from looking down? I'm committing to putting my phone away one evening a week and on family/friend outings unless there's an absolute emergency.

They will appreciate it and the fact that I will be with THEM rather than whomever is texting (THIS DOESN'T APPLY IF IT'S YOUR MOTHER CALLING YOU-LOL).

Will you commit to one day a month,  or even one evening every week? 

Thank you for sticking with me, even when I'm silent for a long time!

Big hugs!
~melissa

P.s. Here's a pic of me and my teen girls enjoying a day, that was definitely NOT wasted staring at a screen!

Sunday, January 5, 2014

The Challenge of Choosing One Word

Resolutions, Shmesolutions...  They don't work, at least for me, they don't.
 
So I'm trying this "One Word" thing out, and we'll see how it goes...I guess....  It took me fooooorever to pick a word. I've read so many blog posts saying the same thing. We could pick 2-3 words, but what makes one word so magical, how does it work in all situations or circumstances?  

There are the easy words.. hope, breath, faith, love, family, etc.....

Then I thought about what I've learned about Mindfulness.  Being present, in the moment every minute of the day, even when brushing your teeth.  Okay, I know, you're probably laughing now thinking, "Yea, right, I'm thinking about what needs to be done before getting in bed or going to work!".  

For example, while holding your daughter's hand, feel her hand, pay attention to the difference in size and texture. (You do know this won't last forever..) Be present in that moment. Giving your PRESENCE to whomever you are with, or whatever you are doing is the greatest gift you can give that person and yourself.  
It has been helping with my anxiety, just to do one thing at a time, as often as possible. I feel like I'm on repeat with: "Hold on, let me finish this first.", followed by a lot of sighs...  Alas, they will survive...and I will concentrate on brushing my teeth while I do just that. 

Big Hugs to You <3
~melissa

Wednesday, January 1, 2014

Moving On..

People change, sometimes separating themselves from us, and we move on..  
Don't take it personally-it's their loss, not yours.
I instantly fell in love with this quote when I found it years ago.  
Happy New Year! 
Big hugs to you <3
~melissa

Monday, December 30, 2013

Here's to the kids..

Passions? I have a few..
Holding them back had caused me to isolate myself, afraid of what other's perceptions or opinions would be.
What if I fail?
What if they hate me?
What if my friends turn away from me?
What if they are embarrassed by me?
What if they laugh when I walk away?
What if it's never the same again?
What if..?
I have escaped my shell, which has shocked some people. I stand up for who and what I care about, which has had the tendency to tick a few people off.
When it backfires, I struggle with crawling back in my safe shell. I have to remember that I don't do this just for me, or the initial reason.
It's for my daughters. They will (too soon) be grown women, and need to have the courage to stand for something as well.
So there are no more "What ifs"...
I have a tremendous amount of respect for the kids that know their passion and don't let something like popularity get in the way.
It took me over 35 years...
How long for you??
Big hugs~
melissa

Sunday, November 3, 2013

30 Days of Thankful Challenge

When asked what we are thankful for, the quick response is usually, "God, Family, and Friends.".  Not always in that order, or even all three.. but you get the picture.

During the month of November, our Facebook news feeds will be full of "Thankful" posts.  I try to be different, so my thankful posts won't list "family" or "friends". 

My FB post on Day 1- "So here begins the month in which we share our gratitude. Today, on day 1, I am thankful for socks..to keep these toes warm and toasty!".  On the next day- "Day 2- I am thankful for Fall back, which gives us an extra hour of zzzzzs this weekend!". 

Coming up with 30 random things will probably be hard, but I think it'll be a little more fun!  

Big hugs to you <3
~melissa